The Only One!

When you discover that you are totally alone just remember The Merciful!
God is supporting who seeks his support, for sure that needs that you deeply believe in it.
Yes, it is painful when you find no one you can trust and talk to with open heart. What can you do?
Feelings like that would kill you if you don't seek the support from God.

Sometimes you feel you've been wronged or mistreated or misunderstood or maybe you only feel so and the people around you are not the ones you may trust, for whom else you will discharge your load and seek help?
Even you may find people you thought they are in your side smiling at you in your weak moments from whom you get power to overcome all that?

Seeking the forgiveness from God is the key for all doors, you will always need that key.

Defensive or Offensive

One Taiwanese guy asked me so early why you are so defensive... The question was a bit strange to me because I thought the guy knew me lately and even the time he made that comment it was in response to one of my requests to stick to the original plan so I didn't understand why I'm so defensive. Well, this is not my point here but I want to explain why any person can be defensive or offensive.

I think when you feel you are alone your behavior will be somehow defensive... you start building scenarios in your head about what the others expect from you and why you didn't do this and that and you might defend yourself even without anybody ask you to do so.
The defensive behavior might catch even a group of people or even a nation like the current situation of Arabs and Muslims. You need to remember that your enemies want you to be going in your defending circles.

Now about the offensive term, it's very easy to deduce when anybody's behavior may be offensive... of course it's the power. When a person or a group of people is powerful immediately you find their offensive attitude when you touch any of their properties or when you try to win your rights which is somehow linked to their properties. That offensive way varies from a very soft offensive power to a very hard one.

On a person level, the offensive attitude is needed along with the defensive one but only need to balance the two and minimize the use of both. Even I feel sorry for those who's nothing to do unless defending themselves maybe because I'm one of them the same time I feel sick from being weak and self-exhausting in no sense.

I'm only worried that it easily turns to be a sickness on both offensive or defensive.

Are you grownup yet?

Many adults are not yet grownup even they look like that. You might think that you are a grownup while you are really not!
How to test that? and how to be sure about it? Well, many funny answers might come to your mind but believe me I don't mean to be funny. Let me make it this way... I'll ask questions in two ways and you will understand what I'm trying to do.

Group 1:
- Are you a grownup because you do not cry?
- Are you a grownup because you look tough?
- Are you a grownup because you've a girlfriend?
- Are you a grownup because you're serious all the time?
- Are you a grownup because you're a father?!
- Are you a grownup because of your white hair?
- Are you a grownup because your friends are strong grownup?
- Are you a grownup because you've a job?

Group 2:
- You cry, are you a grownup?
- You look weak& lonely, are you a grownup?
- You are joking all the time, are you a grownup?
- You've no kids, are you a grownup?
- You look young, are you a grownup?
- Your friends are poor& weak, are you a grownup?
- You've no job, are you a grown up?

I guess you understand my point. There's nothing says you are a grownup and there is no such an easy test to know it... Only life experience may show it a little bit... Still you might be a grownup in some situations but not in all situations. There are many puppets all around never been tested and they lived their life thinking by the way their master dictating' em. They might look tough, old and serious but in fact they are so fragile. My advice to all puppets, be so careful and do not underestimate the others because your master do that.